Remind me what your name is, by Paul Hooley

Paul Hooley

Paul Hooley, 76, from Dorset, had a heart attack at the age of 63, which encouraged him to get fitter. He says: “It seems to me that poetry can be cathartic and can help to concentrate the mind after major events in one's life – releasing thoughts and emotions one never realised one had.

"This poem highlights my observations of watching people I care about – both sufferers and carers – dealing with the heart-breaking symptoms of another dreadful illness, dementia.”


Remind me what your name is

And tell me where we met?

And whose this man who holds your hand?

And why is he upset?


My name is Joan, don’t you recall?

We’ve been married 50 years

And this dear one’s your precious son

Now let him dry his tears


The village hall in fifty nine

Is where we met by chance

From time to time your eyes met mine –

You invited me to dance


I’ve never told you this before

That moment changed my life

I’ve loved you every day since then

I’m proud to be your wife


Through passing years of wedded bliss

We’ve rarely been apart

You’re the master of our house and

Captor of my heart


No man has ever loved like you

or ever matched your charm

Through all the tricky times in life

You sheltered us from harm


Now tables turned and bridges burned

Our journey’s end is near

That you’ll forget and start to fret –

That’s our greatest fear


And whilst it breaks my heart to see

The man that I adore

Struggle to remember me

It makes me love you more


Look closely at this breaking heart

Can’t you recognise

That I’m the one who bore your son –

I’m the love that never dies


Ah, yes it’s coming back to me

How could I forget?

Just remind me what your name is

And tell me where we met?


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