Talking to young children and dealing with change
Telling your child that you’re not well can be difficult and may require a lot of patience on your part. One of the main things that's likely to change when you’re recovering from a heart attack or have a heart condition is that you may not be as active with your children as you’re used to. While you should certainly aim to be as active as possible, there may be times when you won’t feel able to do as much.
It’s important to work out ways to spend quiet time together and use the help you have available when appropriate.
For example, if you feel breathless, use a pushchair rather than carrying your child or ask a partner or friend to help you pick up a child from the ground. If you’re finding lifting difficult, it’s easier to hold them if they’re passed to you.
My dad's heart attack is a free illustrated story book available to order for under 11 year olds. The book explains what happens when a family member has a heart attack, the tests and treatments involved and the changes that will happen to family life.
It's up to you how much you tell them and at what point. While they may understand that you're ill, it can be distressing for them and you if you can’t keep up with their level of activity.
One way to deal with this and still play an active and supporting role is to recruit friends or family to come and take over when you need them to. It’s important not to exhaust yourself, even if you feel up to it.
You can also point older children to websites like ours where they can find out about your condition independently. Working out ways to help involve them in your health – like helping remind you to take your medication, helping you with the shopping, and other tasks – can help you all adjust together.
Getting the support you need
It can be very difficult to rely on other people, but getting extra support – however you go about doing that - will help. It also helps your children adjust to the changes in your life.
Helping children come to terms with death
One of the most difficult things a parent will ever have to go through is helping a child understand why their mum, dad, grandparents, or a brother or sister just isn't there anymore.
We've developed a special tool called Small Creature to help young children deal with their grief. Charities like Winston's Wish can also help.
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